Posts by Aysha Griffin

Writer’s Marketing Workshop in San Miguel de Allende

marketing your book with loveMarketing Your Book With Love –
Sell Your Book And Nurture Your Soul

Tuesday January 12, 2016 • 10am-2:45pm
San Miguel de Allende Biblioteca Sala Quetzel

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Overwhelmed by “the business” of marketing your books? I’ll show you how to replace the fear and drudgery of marketing with a new paradigm that ignites your creativity, uses your style, life experience and passion… and can actually be fun!

In this 4-hour workshop/presentation, you’ll learn:
• The truths and myths about building an author platform.
• What marketing avenues work best for you.
• Why Amazon rankings are key to sales and how to increase yours.
• How, why and where to leverage your time and effort through social, print and broadcast media, joint ventures, PR and other ways you choose to attract your readership, promote and sell your books, and make money.

You’ll leave the workshop with the beginnings of an effective roadmap for your self-nurturing marketing plan,
and the clarity and motivation to follow it.

Whether fiction or non-fiction, in any genre, this workshop will provide real tools and inspiration to bring your voice and heart to successfully parent a healthy, thriving “baby.”

About the presenter:

Aysha Griffin is a business and marketing coach, writer/editor/publisher and former print and broadcast journalist. Known for fusing the artistic, visionary, and practical to empower creative individuals to Inhabit Your Dreams! she has published more than 400 freelance articles in lifestyle, business and travel magazines and 20+ books for clients and herself. A pioneer in desktop publishing, Aysha has owned a marketing/communications agency since 1985, helping hundreds of businesses, non-profits and creatives clarify their vision and achieve their goals. She is author and publisher of Leonardo’s Revenge and Other Stories and the upcoming Marketing Your Book With Love – A Writers’ Guide To Selling Your Books While Nurturing Your Soul.

A resident of San Miguel de Allende for 4 years (formerly from Santa Fe, NM), Aysha has been traveling and working with clients internationally since 2011. She presented this popular workshop for 4 years in a row at the San Miguel Writers’ Conference and elsewhere. Come and discover how you can market your book with love!

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A Writers’ Journey To Cuba

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Me speaking about the future of digital publishing on a panel at Casa de Alba, Havana.

October 7-14, 2015

Those who know me know that I fell into an unlikely and unexpected relationship with the island nation 90 miles south of Miami, which is a mystery to most U.S. citizens. Due to my experience with digital publishing, I was invited by the Cuban Book Institute in late 2013 to share with publishers, editors and authors what is common in most of the rest of the world, and as yet largely inaccessible to them. I took the opportunity to spend 3 months there.

Although Cuba rightly boasts some of the most beautiful beaches in the world, areas of stunning lakes and mountains, UNESCO-designated cities and a complicated hostory all its own, what sets it apart from other Caribbean Islands is not only its socialism and isolation from 21st century technology, but the highly-literate population of 11 million and the plethora of creative and genuinely welcoming individuals who celebrate life . As one author/cardiologist said to me, “Thank you taking an interest in us. We have nothing to offer you but our friendship.” Indeed, the friendships formed with some of Cuba’s top writers, senior professors and cultural center directors are among the most profound in my life.

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Conversations with a few of Cuba’s leading authors in the garden at UNEAC (the Union of Writres and Artists) in Havana. Can you imagine yourself here? It will be part of the Writers’ Journey to Cuba!

In hearing my stories, several writer friends from North America asked if I would create a tour that offers similiar profound engagement with Cuba’s literati and so, after much planning and coordination, working with Altruvistas – a travel service with a long and well-respected reputation of organizing legal trips to Cuba for American associations, academic and other groups – I am delighted to offer the Writers’ Journey To Cuba. Please click the link to read about it.

It is the first delegation of its kind to Cuba, and offers two pricing options – including a charter from Miami or land-only (for those coming from Mexico, Europe or elsewhere).

Altruvistas also wrote a short piece about this unique Tour, which might give you more insight. I would greatly appreciate if you’d pass it along to your writer friends, bibliophiles and social networks… you never know to whose heart and mind this might speak. A huge thank you to those who have!

Prior articles I’ve posted on Cuba: Visiting Havana and Visit Cuba Resources.

Please contact me with any questions or concerns. Your comments, as always, welcome below.

How to Stay in Europe

how to get a French visa and live in EuropeThe Saga of Acquiring a French long-stay Visa

“There must be a way to stay in Europe!” I thought after arriving in Madrid in May 2014, determined to pursue a long-time dream of living somewhere in southern Europe. After countless hours of online research and talking with immigration attorneys, bankers and small business consultants, I am happy to tell you what I discovered.

This long post is of specific interest to U.S. citizens who would love to live in Europe, and does not apply to many of my readers. Please share with friends to whom it applies, leave comments and help me promote it via your social media channels. Thanks! I will be posting more travel and author-related articles in the near future, so if you have not yet subscribed for email alerts I encourage you to do it now and also join me on Facebook and Twitter.

First, let me clarify a few basics so there are no misunderstandings. If you are a U.S. and Canadian tourist planning to visit Europe for less than 3 months you do NOT need to apply for a visa, as it is automatically granted upon arrival. (I have not research regulations regarding other nationalities).

This law governs all non-EU citizens

Every country in Europe, even those not officially in the European Union like Switzerland, Norway, Iceland and Liechtenstein – with the exception of the UK and Ireland – has signed the Schengen Agreement. This allows open borders across Europe for all EU nationals, and a limit of 90 days (out of 180 days) for all non-EU citizens. Once you arrive in the EU, the clock starts ticking and you have 90 days. Even if you leave and return, your 90 days started upon first arrival and when they are up, you must then be out of the EU for at least 90 days before returning. The UK  typically grants a 6-month tourist visa if you have health insurance (I recommend WorldNomads), “sufficient funds,” agree not to seek employment, and seem legitimate.

Anecdotally, I’ve heard of tourist-visa holders slightly overstaying their 3 months and leaving without incident from Spain or Italy (which seem more lenient in enforcement than other nations), while other tourists being reprimanded, fined and even barred from returning to the EU for up to 10 years.

I’ve also read of a loophole to avoid having one’s passport stamped altogether: taking the Eurostar from London to Paris where there has been no immigration at Gare du Nord railway station. But then, how does one prove when they arrived? We live in a highly-controlled and computerized world where everyone is trackable, so why risk fine or being a persona non grata?

Special Programs for Freelancers

The only information I found that might permit staying on in the EU, after having arrived on a tourist visa, are special programs for freelancers in Berlin Germany and for self-employed in The Netherlands under the Dutch-American Friendship Treaty. You must be there, show a year’s lease, open a bank account and deposit several thousand euros as a sort of bond, prove you are self-supporting, buy their health insurance, and a pension plan if over 45, and be committed to living there. If this works for you, it may be worth pursuing. However, as in with all information herein, laws change continually so do your research. Hiring a facilitator or attorney specializing in these programs is recommended.

Actually Getting a Visa

So, if you are a non-EU passport holders, how can you get a visa to stay beyond 90 days in the EU?

If you are fortunate enough to have proof a parent or grandparent born in Europe, you may qualify for residency  or citizenship in that country. In any case, you must apply for in your country of origin and/or residence.

If you have a large sum of money to invest, you can buy your way into residency in some countries. Spain, for example, offers residency if you purchase a home for 500,000 or more euros.

You can marry an EU citizen although, as in the U.S., marriage does not necessarily grant immediate residency and proof of the relationship’s authenticity may be required. Spain, I’m told, is the most lenient regarding this.

Other than these exceptions, no matter which EU country you choose – the regulations for each vary widely and I can speak only to my experience with Spain and France – there will be a lot of qualifications you must meet, paperwork to gather, bureaucratic hoops through which to jump, long-distance trips to your Consulate office (unless you happen to live in the same city as the consulate), money to be paid whether or not your receive a visa, and time to wait for an answer. Every nation’s visa rules and process can be found via an online search. Some country’s requirements are easier to fulfill than others.

Spanish Visa

As a resident of New Mexico, applying for a Spanish visa would have required two trips to Houston to the Spanish Consulate for my region; the first appointment to drop-off all the paperwork and the second to pick it up. I could apply for a 6 or 12-month visa as an au pair, culture and language assistant, student, unpaid intern, for religious activities or residency. Each option requires elaborate proofs. For example, as a student, you must prove that you’ve paid the institution in advance for the entire time, say a year. You cannot receive a refund should you decide not to attend and the school is bound to report you to the consulate, which would likely revoke your extended visa.

The Spanish consulate’s website also cites a four-month wait time. When I considered the cost of the two trips, the wait time, and the complications of their visa requirements, I gave up, thinking I’d either 1. Continue doing the 3 months in/3 months out, 2. Stay illegally and risk consequences, or 3. Find a Spaniard to marry (actually, the easiest way to get Spanish residency)… but then the matter of finding one is easier said than done! Seriously, marriage is a legal contract and there are many sad stories of Americans marrying for convenience only to be find themselves in mucky and financially devastating relationship with someone they could not trust.

My Story

After my three months traveling in Spain and France were up, from May 1 to Aug. 3, 2014 (yes, I overstayed by 2 days no problem), I left the EU with the intention of passing my 3-month “exile” in England. As the UK is far more expensive than where I’d been, I lined up housesitting positions and laid low. After 2 months, I decided to return to Santa Fe, New Mexico, where I’d maintained residency, and try and procure a visa to Spain. I purchased a round-trip ticket from London to Albuquerque with an arbitrary 6-month return date, knowing it could be changed for a fee. Airfares are generally cheaper from Europe to the U.S. than from the U.S. to Europe.

As described above, I was daunted by the Spanish Consulate requirements and gave up. In February 2015, I stumbled upon a blog post that mentioned a French Long-Stay visa and immediately went to the French Consulate website for Los Angeles, the regional office for the southwest U.S.

The requirements for a one-year “Long-Stay” visa were more straightforward for me – proof of sufficient funds – liquid, not investments or assets (no one can say what qualifies as ” sufficient funds”), statement that I would not work in France, a local police report showing I had no criminal record, proof of health insurance for the entire year (again, via World Nomads), proof of residency in New Mexico, two photos, and proof of where I would reside in France. This is key. I was very fortunate. A friend who is a resident and homeowner in France generously offered me to live with her and provided a letter of invitation, proof of her residency, property tax and utility bill.

The French Consulate in Los Angeles

I made a Consulate appointment online for February 24th at 10am, booked a flight to Burbank for the 23rd – a smaller airport and convenient for visiting my sister and her family for two nights – and a rental car from the airport. I had originals and two neatly-organized copies of all the paperwork, including a prepaid Fedex Airbill for my passport to be returned, hopefully with the French visa inside, and felt confident I had a good chance of receiving the coveted permission.

It is 12 miles from my sister’s home to the Consulate office on Santa Monica Blvd. I left at 7:30 to allow plenty of time and arrived just before 10:00, stressed and anxious from 2-1/2 hours in LA traffic; returning took 30 minutes. I thought I’d find an office where you go in, sit down, wait, and meet with an officer. Nope. The entrance is around back of an office building (there is expensive underground parking) and you ring a buzzer, give your name and stand outside in an uncovered concrete area until you are called.

My first encounter was with the security officer and paper checker, a man whom other bloggers had commented was rude and intimidating. I found him polite and charming as he logged my passport and proof of residency (NM driver’s license) and directed me to sit in the next room – a windowless space with plastic chairs lining opposite walls with two teller’s windows each manned by young a French woman fluent in English. Four other people, holding passports from China, Mexico, Greece, and the U.S., were ahead of me. Finally I was called and stood at the glass partition.

“Do you have your application?” asked the girl curtly. “Yes, I have the whole packet here,” I replied chirpily. “Give me just what I ask for!” she snapped. I handed her the application form. One by one she requested various papers, not in the order specified by the website. She visually scanned the contract I presented from my online employer. “It says it can be ‘terminated by either party with 60 days notice,'” she stated. “That’s standard in any contract,” I explained. “Not good,” she said, but I’m sure it was later factored in to their decision. My bank statement also was not clear enough for her that it was a cash account and not an investment account. “You’ll need a letter from the bank. You can scan and email it to us.” My French friend’s property tax receipt lacked a page and I needed to obtain and email that too. I paid the $110 processing fee, she kept everything including my passport, and I left feeling unnerved and uncertain.

Back at my sister’s, I scrambled to get an official letter from my bank and contact my friend (8 hours ahead in France) who graciously drove the hour to her tax office to get the missing page, take a camera shot of it and email it to me. I forwarded it all to the consulate. Having fulfilled the requested paperwork, I waited.

The Fedex Trauma

Nearly two weeks later, on a Wednesday, I received an email with the tracking number for my Fedex overnight package which had left the consulate office. I tracked it to Fedex in LA, and then an ice storm in Memphis prevented further transport. I called Fedex. They’d said they’d try to deliver it Saturday. Monday afternoon, still no package. Tuesday afternoon I received a call from Fedex that it had been delivered. But where?  It wasn’t at my house, where I’d received dozens of Fedex deliveries in the past!

Panicked, my mind running amuck that my passport could be stolen, I called again, begging them to contact the driver directly. Finally, Wednesday afternoon I was patched through to the driver who described where he had left it – at a house on the next street with the same address number. I ran there, rang the bell, breathlessly explaiing my plight to the owner, who happened to be a Frenchman, and seemed amused by my panic. “Yes, we received it yesterday and thought we’d give it back to the Fedex driver this afternoon as we’re expecting a pick up.” Of course he had no idea my passport was enclosed nor the anxiety I’d suffered. I tore open the envelope and there inside was pasted my French one-year visa, beginning March 31, 2015, the day of my changed return flight to London and on to Toulouse. “YES!” I cried at the relief of it. Again, I felt lucky. Lesson: Always check “signature required” for an important delivery.

French visa, how to stay in EU

The French Long-Stay Visa

It is valid for a year, and renewable for another year by request at the local OFII (Immigration) office, so I can continue as a temporary resident of France year-by-year, without needing to return to the U.S. As required, shortly after my arrival in France, I registered my presence on the required forms (provided by the Consulate along with my passport). Having learned my Fedex lesson, I posted them with a return receipt request and received that.

A few weeks later the post delivered a standard letter for an appointment on May 27 at 1:30 p.m. at the OFII for a medical exam. From my friend’s place in The Gers Department of the Midi-Pyrenees, the local office is in Toulouse, a 2 hour’s drive to the east. The exam consisted of a chest X-ray to ensure I do not have TB, a few questions about my general health, and a brief meeting with an immigration officer to receive a stamp on my visa and more paperwork that I can submit for next year’s visa. Although most everyone at the OFII spoke enough English, the immigration woman did not and, while I could have muddled through with no French, it was helpful to have a bilingual friend accompany me.

As a temporary resident of France, I am not supposed to spend more than 3 months every year in other parts of the EU, although one wonders how anyone would know with the EU’s open borders. I can also go anywhere in the world and return to France anytime, as long as my visa is still valid.

It is a long and stressful road to receive official permission to reside in France or anywhere in the EU. You have to really want to live in Europe! I am grateful to my friend whose invitation made it possible for me to continue my search for a place to call home in Europe. Who knows, maybe I’ll marry a Spaniard after all… or an Italian, or a Frenchman… but I won’t need to for a visa. We’ll see, but least I’m here, living this dream, and possibilities abound.

If you have a story about getting – or trying to get – a visa to reside in the EU, I’d love to hear from you! Please share it in the comments section or contact me for a possible guest blog.

 

Catalonia’s Human Towers

Lessons in teamwork, pride and self-confidence

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Castellers de Vilafranca, many-time champions of human tower building competitions in Catalonia.

Imagine tightly wrapping a length of thick black cloth around your middle and then, firmly grounded, entwining arms-to-shoulders with the people next to you so others can scamper up your back. This is how you start to create a human tower or castell. It seems crazy, and yet this is the complex sport, the idea of fun, and the source of personal and civic pride for the castellers of Catalonia.

Of course no one could do it alone, which is the point. It is a team sport that takes skill, cooperation, focus and commitment. A 10-story tower, which I believe is a record height, requires a 1,000 castellers, each holding a specific position. Competitions between teams pack the town plazas of northeast Spain.

Although the tradition began more than 400 years ago near the city of Tarragona, it was not until about 50 years ago its popularity exploded in other parts of Catalonia, and in 2010 castells received UNESCO designation as Masterpieces of the Oral and Intangible Heritage of Humanity.

You’ve probably seen photos or videos of them – those crazy guys (and gals and children) who climb up each other. But there’s far more to their madness than meets the eye, as I recently learned in a demonstration and workshop for a group of travel bloggers attending the Travel Bloggers Exchange Conference (TBEX) in the popular seaside town of Lloret de Mar.

Understanding castells

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Members of Castellers de Vilafranca demonstrate their sport.

We gather on the rooftop patio of restaurant/club Atica, with the glittering sapphire of the Mediterranean Ocean defining the beach cove below. On the rocky cliffs of this bit of Costa Brava (the “wild coast”), a stone tower from the 11th century rises from a precipice in the distance, reminding us of the long history of Catalonia. Before us stand two obviously-fit men, a slender young woman and a 10-year-old girl, the daughter of one of the men. The young woman named Neus, who looks like a teenager, tells me she is a 26-year-old architect, has been a casteller since age 10, and loves the “engineering aspects” of human-tower building.

Each is dressed in white pants and a teal shirt, the colors of the prestigious Castellers de Vilafranca, the large and well-respected association of 400+ members committed to preserving and promoting popular Catalan culture. Being a casteller is, for most, a sport in which to participate on weekends, competing against teams from other towns. But for Tony Bach i Lleal of Vilafranca, it is a full-time job.

Casteller wrapping a faixa
Tony Bach i Lleal of Vilafranca, a fulltime casteller and facilitator for teaching human towerbuilding

 

Affable and clearly expert at explaining and facilitating the casteller experience, Toni has us begin by partnering to wrap the rolled black sash tightly around our waist and tuck in the end. Called faixa (pronounced “fascia”), sashes vary in length from 6 to 36 feet, depending on the casteller’s position inside the tower, and protects the back while giving climbers something to hold on to.

Next, Toni explains the goal: to successfully build and disassemble a castell without toppling. The assembly is complete once all castellers have climbed into their designated places, and the enxaneta (“enchaneta”, or the child who tops the tower) reaches the top and raises one hand with four fingers erect; a gesture said to symbolize the stripes of the Catalan flag. The enxaneta then climbs down the other side of the castell, after which the remaining levels of castellers descend in highest-to-lowest order until all have reached safety.

When I ask Toni’s colleague if he has any fear about his daughter being an enxaneta, he smiles – no doubt a common question – and  says, “No. It is very safe, and an honor.”

Being part of a human tower

Having baffled this writer with complicated Catalan names for each position on the tower and the tower structures themselves, Toni calls the steps, like in a square dance, for his group of to begin demonstrating the actual methodology of shoulder mounting and dismounting. It is common for castellers to go barefoot to minimize injuring each other as they climb to their position, and for sensitivity when balancing.

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TBEXers learn to be part of a castell

Toni then invites members of the TBEX group to join in. While several are eager to climb, those, like myself, who opt not to give it a go, are positioned to form the pinya, or bottom base of the castell, to sustain its weight and act as a ‘safety net’ if the tower structure collapses, cushioning the fall of people from above. Fortunately, the climbers are agile and the pinva strong.

Clearly, success in completing a castell feels exhilarating, even as an on-the-ground part of the pinva. Understanding and experiencing a castell presents a fine lesson in personal confidence and team building, which Toni’s organization teaches to businesses and groups worldwide. If you ever get a chance to see them in action, do it. You will be amazed. You can contact him via http://castellersdevilafranca.cat/en/

10 Tips for Independent Travel in Europe

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If travel is on your  mind, may these tips for saving, safety and deeper experiences encourage you to get going! They are based on my experiences of 5 months of solo travel in Europe last summer – Spain, France and the UK. Although without a human companion, I had the company of my 30-year-old “mascot,” IggyMo, a classic Gund monkey who saved me from “selfies” and helped make many friends along the way. He chronicles his own adventures with sweet innocence of which I am happy to be reminded.

The linked pages are full of specific tips and details which apply to most travel – not just western Europe. Please share with friends via social media and elsewise.

Your feedback, questions and stories are welcome in the comments section. 

1. Stay where you feel good
When it comes to discomfort, no matter the reason – claustrophobic, dirty, bad bed, noisy, negative energy, in a “dodgy” neighborhood – anytime you feel uncomfortable, unwelcome or ill at ease, find a better situation.

On the other hand, sometimes first impressions – positive or negative – are not accurate. When I arrive tired or feel vulnerable, small things like a light not working or the hot and cold faucets being reversed can send me over the edge of despair. Or, I’ve be so grateful to arrive at a destination that I overlooked the pervasive smell of blood and guts (no one mentioned the pig slaughtering plant next door) or the restaurant downstairs that turns into a rave club after midnight.

Point is, after a good look around, you decide the place isn’t for you, plot the quickest exit strategy and find a situation to relocate. For ideas on inexpensive and alternative stays, click here.

2. Know the laws and customs
Paris traffic signThe most important law you need to know if you plan to spend more than 3 months in the European Union – as a non-EU passport holder – is the Schengen Agreement http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schengen Agreement. Upon arrival in the EU you get a 3-month tourist visa, good for all the 26 EU countries, and then must leave the EU for 3 months. If you overstay, it can mean big trouble. There are no known legal ways to extend your tourist without apply from within your country of origin or residence. Stay tuned (subscribe now) for an upcoming blog I’ll post about how I received a one-year “long-stay visa” from the French Consulate.

As for local customs, your time in any foreign country will be a lot more fun if you make an effort to learn about greetings and goodbyes, handshakes, kisses, pre-meal salutations, and at least a few words and phrases. Be aware of standard hours and days of shop and office closures, as they vary widely country-to-country and even area-to-area within a country. Local and national holidays not only affect business closings but transportation and movements of whole populations (like July and August when every popular destination is packed). To read about my adventure driving around France, click here.

3. Try to appreciate everything – It’s a journey. You chose to embark on it. There will be challenges, and how you handle them will teach you a lot about your self… and may even lead to grand adventures you wouldn’t have had otherwise.

4. Travel light – I know, everyone says this and it’s true. travel lightIf you’re going on vacation, you should be able to travel with one carry-on (rolling bag or backpack) and a second small carry-on for computer/ipad, camera and daily walk-around things.

Read this important article on “How and Why To Travel Light”: click here. I also wrote “Two weeks, one carry-on” in 2008. The principles are the same but some details need updating, like you can now bring your smartphone and buy a local Sim card for pay-as-you-go calls; and with the proliferation of wifi zones it’s easy to keep in touch worldwide for free via Skype, FaceTime, Google chat, ad nauseum.

5. Save money on accommodations – The biggest single expense (at home and especially while traveling) is accommodation. To learn about money-saving possibilities, click here.

6. Save money on food – Besides saving money, there’s the pleasure of the hunt, local interactions and learning about the culture through the food itself. Click here to read about great ways to save money, eat well and have more authentic dining experiences.
Basque food feast

7. Save on Transportation: Know your budget, plan, and be very flexible – Do your research so you have a good sense of what your expenses will likely be, and add more for contingencies. For many more tips on getting to, from and around, click here.

make friends with locals8. Meet Locals – Try to establish in advance at least one contact in each place you’ll be staying – someone who will meet with you – even for just a cup of coffee or glass of wine – if not host you for a night or more. Insider information will save you time, money, and likely introduce you to places, events and people you’d not know otherwise. Best of all – especially if you’re traveling alone – you won’t feel so alone. Attitude is Everything – along with integrity, respect, self-love. A pleasant attitude and smile will go much further than language skills. Want deas and resources for finding and cultivating these friendly local connections? Click here.

9. Get Travel / Medical Insurance – Why? Peace of mind. And some countries, like the UK, may require proof of it to enter. Besides the obvious negative possibilities of accident, medical emergency, dismemberment, death or lost baggage, I chose the upgraded policy from World Nomads because it offered $30,000 comprehensive and collision coverage on any rental car. When I rented a Europcar for 8 days in France, I waived the $15 a day car rental insurance, saving more than the equivalent of a month’s policy with WorldNomads. Check into it and get a free quote here. ferry La Havre to Portsmith

10. Be Fearless – Before you leave home, create a support network. With phones, text, email, social networks and free online communications, it’s easy to stay in touch. Also, be sure to leave copies of all your important information, including contacts and passwords with a trusted person. I’ve compiled a list of ways to feel and be safer on the road and at home… Click here to read it.

Now, do you feel ready to for a trip to Europe? Be in touch if you – or a friend – is headed this way!

All photos at InhabitYourDreams.com © 2014 Aysha Griffin

 

Writers’ Workshop in Santa Fe

marketing your book with loveMarketing Your Book With Love – Sell Your Book While Nurturing Your Soul

Wed. Oct. 22, 10am-1pm

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Learn about the Workshop
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Overwhelmed by “the business” of marketing your books? I’ll show you how to replace the fear and drudgery of marketing with a new paradigm that ignites your creativity, uses your style, life experience and passion… and can actually be fun!

In this 3-hour workshop/presentation, you’ll learn:
• The truths and myths about building an author platform.
• What works best for you.
• Why Amazon rankings are key to sales and how to increase yours.
• How, why and where to leverage your time and effort through social, print and broadcast media, joint ventures, PR and other ways you choose to attract your readership, promote and sell your books, and make money.

You’ll leave the workshop with the beginnings of an effective roadmap for your self-nurturing marketing plan, and the clarity and motivation to follow it.

Whether fiction or non-fiction, in any genre, this workshop will provide real tools and inspiration to bring your voice and heart to successfully parent a healthy, thriving “baby.”

About the presenter:

Aysha Griffin is a business and marketing coach, writer/editor/publisher and former print and broadcast journalist. Known for fusing the artistic, visionary, and practical to empower creative individuals to Inhabit Your Dreams! she has published more than 400 freelance articles in lifestyle, business and travel magazines and 20+ books for clients and herself. A pioneer in desktop publishing, Aysha has owned a marketing/communications agency since 1985, helping hundreds of businesses, non-profits and creatives clarify their vision and achieve their goals. She is author and publisher of Leonardo’s Revenge and Other Stories and the upcoming Marketing Your Book With Love – A Writers’ Guide To Selling Your Books While Nurturing Your Soul.

A Santa Fe, NM resident for 12 years, Aysha has been traveling and working with clients internationally since 2011. She has presented this popular workshop for 4 years in a row at the San Miguel Writers’ Conference and elsewhere. Come and discover how you can market your book with love!

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I found my voice in Girona…

Eiffel Bridge GironaOr Why Taking Responsibility – That Isn’t Yours – Can Be Detrimental To Your Health!

On the red metal bridge designed by Gustave Eiffel, over the River Onyar in Girona at sunset, walking with my friend Anna, a man, thirty-something, with a jaunty walk, approached from the opposite direction. Recognizing Ana, he slowed and exchanged greetings. “Que tal?” she asked. He said he’d just come from teaching a voice class. He cradled a bottle of Dom Perignon, and I commented that was a precious bottle. “A gift from one of my students,” he said, with a smile that conveyed genuine gratitude. He was relaxed and completely present to our conversation.

“So you teach singing?” I asked. “Not exactly. I work with professional singers, yes, and others, to find and expand their voice, which comes from their body, their grounding.” Jordi Hom continued, speaking of the relationship of the body’s organs to the body and its surroundings, using all its senses – including its intuitive sense – to give rise to voice. “It has little to do with just breathing.”

Without thinking, I asked, “Can I have a session with you?” I surprised myself. “Sure,” he replied and we made a date. The night before, I had a Skype talk with a new friend, who is a talented jazz singer. We spoke about the joy of singing, and my inhibition, believing I cannot sing on key. “You have a great speaking voice. I’m sure you can sing,” she said. I wasn’t sure, although I love to sing and know the words to nearly every song I’ve ever heard. And then this teacher appeared. Serendipity.

Jordi’s studio is a spacious room with a mirrored wall and electric piano in one corner. I stood in the middle while he walked around me, observing. “Your energy is cut off at the knees, ungrounded. It’s not flowing through your tightened chest, through your groin and connecting with the ground,” he said.

He sat at the piano and had me sing scales using different vowels. “You have no problem with key,” he noted, “but do you hear all the air in your voice?” Of course, it’s sounded like that for as long as I recall, as if diluting sound with air. “Let’s change that!” he said with glee. OK! I agreed.

For the next hour, I walked deliberately, planting my heels on the floor, moving my arms and hands in loose circles toward my body, I sat in a chair across from him as he massaged every centimeter of each hand, moving the energy up my arms, explaining how the meridians related to various organs. At one point he said, “You’re carrying responsibilities that are not yours.” As the truth of that was obvious to me, I began to weep.

I had a lifetime of stories of hurts, disappointments, abandonments… persistent memories of being wounded. I had literally taken to heart other people’s words and deeds, let them stick like a knife, drawing my life’s blood. And I carried responsibility for them, as if they were my words and deeds when, in fact, I know that everything that issues from another is theirs. I have my own. I didn’t need to take responsibility for anyone else’s. It was a heavy and painful burden that finally and suddenly could be let go. My body relaxed in a new way.

I returned several times to stand in front of the piano and intone scales. As if a miracle, I heard my voice without airiness, a pure deep rich tone. Jordi played “The Rose,” a perfect song for the occasion, and I sang, tears streaming down my cheeks. “You have a beautiful voice,” he said. Yes, I do. It’s always been there, a secret even to myself. Now it is revealed.  finding your voice

Interesting that this happened in Girona, a city renowned for its secrets hidden in massive stone walls, buried beneath ancient foundations. We all have wounds. That’s inevitable. But in relinquishing responsibilities that are not mine, my voice became clear.

“The Rose”

Some say love, it is a river
That drowns the tender reed.
Some say love, it is a razor
That leaves your soul to bleed.
Some say love, it is a hunger,
An endless aching need.
I say love, it is a flower,
And you its only seed.

It’s the heart afraid of breaking
That never learns to dance.
It’s the dream afraid of waking
That never takes the chance.
It’s the one who won’t be taken,
Who cannot seem to give,
And the soul afraid of dyin’
That never learns to live.

When the night has been too lonely
And the road has been too long,
And you think that love is only
For the lucky and the strong,
Just remember in the winter
Far beneath the bitter snows
Lies the seed that with the sun’s love
In the spring becomes the rose.

 

 

68 Thoughts A Baby-Boomer Woman Traveler Has When Traveling Alone in Europe

IMG_1247After walking the ancient wall that encloses the original city of Girona, Catalonia,  I returned to my computer to find an article, “68 Thoughts Every Traveler Has On Their Trip Around The World” by Nomadic Matt, one of the many travel writers to whom I happily subscribe. He does a great job at encouraging his peers to “travel cheaper, better, and longer.” While his article appeals and applies to a 20-something beer-drinking, hostel-staying crowd – the ones I met 35 years ago – it inspired me to wonder if I could make a list of “68 Thoughts A Baby-Boomer Woman Traveler Has When Traveling Alone.” Why not?

Matt wrote his list in the third person; mine is first-person and I would not presume or generalize about anyone else’s experience. Although I have had some times of loneliness, I am pleased to note I’ve had no regrets about embarking on this journey, I have been supported in countless ways by human angels at every turn, and have faith I will find my way “”home” and inhabit my dreams all along the way.

Your comments, as always, are welcome. As Iggymo would say, smiles and love.

68 Thoughts A Baby-Boomer Woman Traveler Has Traveling Alone

1. I’ve done this before, I can do it again.
2. This time I am more mature, have more skills and contacts and know-how to plan and budget.
3. I know it’s important to travel light, but damn, I need these 5 pairs of shoes because I have bunions and my feet ache and I need to have alternatives.
4. I will be traveling to various climates and have many experiences, so I need a variety of clothes for warm and cool weather, informal and more formal.
5. I need these hair and body products, this makeup, these over-the-counter drugs just in case… it’s a lot to carry, but important.
6. OK, so I fit everything into 2 rolling bags that weigh in just below the airline limit (25kg each). No matter, I can hire porters and airport carts.
7. There are no porters and airport carts. My bags are way too heavy.
8. I’m afraid I’m going to strain a muscle.
9. Why is there no one to help me?
10. Why did I agree to stay in a 4th floor walk-up without an elevator?
11. Oh well, it’s for a few weeks and I only have to carry them up and down once.
12. Yay! I am in Madrid!
13. It’s a beautiful city I’ve been in twice before and know my way around.
14. There are people everywhere, and I am lonely.
15. I attend InterNations events and get together with a few people. Well done, making new friends, seeing the sights.
16. I am still lonely.
17. I need to make more friends.
18. I do. Good, interesting people. Good for me.
19. This is the first stop on what may be a long journey in search of home. I chose this. Be patient.
20. Love yourself.
21. Everyone thinks you’re courageous.
22. I’m not. I want to see if it’s true what I’ve been telling others: that you can “Inhabit Your Dreams!” Can you really? Can I?
23. Damn, I spent a lot of money on clothes, thinking I needed to buy them before I left, only to discover I could have bought better, cheaper, more interesting clothes in Madrid.
24. I’ll give away everything I don’t need and then my suitcases will be lighter.
25. Two bags of clothes and toiletries gone to the woman who cleans the hallways, and still my bags are full to the max and too heavy.  How can this be? What else can I give away?
26. Why did I bring all those toiletries and medicines? I can buy almost everything I need when I need it.
27. Why did I bring a router and printer? I thought I’d need them for my work, but this is Europe and there is wi-fi and copy shops are everywhere. Get rid of them.
28. I give them to friends to use, with the agreement I can have them back if I need them. Why would I need them? Stop hanging on to things for some imagined contingency.
24. I carry the still-too-heavy bags down 4 flights of stairs, one at a time, at 7 a.m. Why is there no one here to help me?
25. I could hurt myself.
26. I do not know how to travel light.
27. Why is the taxi I reserved not here to take me to the train station?
28. I could miss my train and keep a friend waiting who is driving a long way to meet me. How would I get in touch with her? I haven’t figured out how to call France from Spain on a Spanish cell phone.
29. I am pathetic.
30. I will leave all my things in the hallway and hope no one steals them while I run around the corner and hope to find a taxi. Am I am idiot?
31. I find a taxi. I am OK. I am resourceful.
32. Strangers help me with my over-weight bags. I am blessed.
33. My new friend is at the Bayonne station to meet me. All is well.
34. I stay at her beautiful home in the French countryside. I am so lucky. How can two weeks pass so quickly? I didn’t get much done.
35. I am much more relaxed, at peace with this path I’ve set for myself.
36. I am organized.
37. I leave more things behind but my bags are still too heavy.
38. I am on my way to Girona, where I have wanted to go for years, and with a great place to stay, thanks to more great people in my life. It’s all good.
39. There is a French railroad strike and I cannot use the ticket I bought weeks ago to Girona. Now what? Why is this happening to me?
40. There must be another way to get there. Yes, a bus at midnight getting me in at 4 a.m. OK, I’ll deal with it. I buy the bus ticket. Whew. I’ll email my friends in Girona.
41. Fuckin’ internet at the station doesn’t work (“Sorry for the inconvenience” says the online message). I am being foiled at every turn. Am I not supposed to go to Girona? Stop with the “magical thinking,” it’s just a railway strike!
43. I find a wifi signal and get through to them. They are very helpful and consoling. Relax. All is well.
42. Can I just retreat to the comfort of my friend’s nice house in the country? No, you must carry on. Remember how courageous your friends think you are.
43. Thank god there is baggage storage next to the train station. I wheel my bags, piggy backed. It works on flat paved ground. Pretty cool.
44. Now what? I break down and cry. Why am I all alone? This is too much.
45. You’re in Toulouse. You were here before in 2008, as a journalist guest of the Tourism Board. You can rent a city bike. You have a Mexican credit card with a chip in it that should work. You are so smart.
47. With help from other bike renter, you figure it out. It works. Now ride around and see what you can discover. It’s a beautiful day. All is well.
48. I wave at kids on a boat on the river and stop to buy a bottle of water. A young French man and I get into a conversation. He is a filmmaker, lived in Australia, is full of ideas. We talk for a hour. He takes a photo of Iggy and me and the bike. How sweet! Life is full of good things.
49. The gazebo at the park is full of dancing couples, the sidewalk cafes full of friends. It is beautiful and I feel lonely.
50. The bus is full and cramped. How have I managed to travel widely and this is the first time ever that my plans have been derailed? I guess I am lucky.
51. I am in Girona. My friends make me feel very welcome. But they are leaving for the weeks I will be here. I will be alone.
52. This is a beautiful apartment they have given me. I feel grateful.
53. The city has so much history and places to explore. I can take care of myself here, see what I want, do what I want.
54. I don’t really care about churches and museums. I’ve seen a lot of them. What am I really interested in and when am I going to finish writing the two books I have in process?
55. I get out and walk around, talk to people, use “my companion” IggyMo as a device. Some moments are interesting, engaged. I stop and interact. I am good at this.
56. There are many shops with beautiful things. I don’t need to buy anything. It’s strange not having a home in which to put beautiful things.
57. The bread, pastries, wine and chocolates are fabulous and cheap. I am enjoying them all and hope I don’t gain weight.
58. That’s what happened 35 years ago when I traveled in Europe alone. But I was scared then. I’m not scared now, just missing having someone to share all this with.
59. I have coffee with a neighbor. How nice!
60. He has a life. I don’t. But I am just getting started creating this new one. Be gentle with yourself.
61. I am good at distracting myself with Facebook, with work, with writing this list.
62. Remember: this is what many people dream of doing. This is what you said you dream of doing!
63. I feel grateful for my freedom, for the many friends around the world who think of me, care about me, allow me to care about them. How blessed I am!
64. I will take myself to the coast tomorrow, as it will be hot and sunny and I want to go to the Costa Brava, the Brave Coast. I want to be brave.
65. This is my life, my human experience. I am fortunate to be here, to look out over this beautiful historic city of Girona and have so many adventures ahead.
66. I could go to a jazz club tonight, but I am too tired.
67. I think of going to Barcelona for a day or two, as it’s so close, but it seems exhausting. I was there for a week in 2006 and I have no desire to sightsee. Too many people. Better to stay in a place, ideally for a month of more.
68. In 2 weeks I will train to Paris (if there’s no train strike) and meet up with one of my oldest, dearest friends and, for that week, and the next with another friend in Burgundy, I will share the experience and appreciate not being alone. I will get rid of even more stuff, and little by little my luggage must surely become lighter.

The Travel Writer Returns (or How To Restart Your Blog)

Girona one of many bridges across the onyar River
IggyMo and I on one of many bridges across the Onyar River in Girona, Catalunya.

Hello, I’m back. The passing of this summer Solstice, which finds me in Girona, Catalunya (northeast Spain), seems a perfect time for committing or recommitting to what is important.

There is so much I want to write about, to share, in the European adventures I’m having, in the new life I am creating at 59 years old. This isn’t just a vacation or a trip, as that implies a finite amount of time and a home that awaits your return. I currently have no such place, such anchor, in the world.

I did not realize three years ago (and more), as I began to dismantle my partnership of 25 years – through lack of appreciation and an abiding sense of discontent – that I was setting myself on this path to discover “home.” It is, of course, both an internal metaphor – a journey of where sense of purposefulness, meaning and connection reside – and an external search for a physical location where I feel “at home.”

As a writer, words (increasingly spoken aloud to my solo self) are the means by which I process and communicate with myself, and others with whom I hope to be in conversation. Therefore a blog is an appropriate and valuable tool, which I’ve not employed in a long time. There are always distractions, excuses and choices to be made about how we pass the hours of each day.

In addition to being present with the newness that travel imparts, I’ve been spending a lot of time on FaceBook creating a community for my travel companion, IggyMo who is a stuffed monkey made by Gund and purchased for me 27 years ago. He now has over 100 fans and, like any novelist will tell you about characters taking on a life of their own (which you hope they do), IggyMo is doing and saying things that are unique to him. He’s a delightful companion who permits me to share his daily adventures at http://on.fb.me/STqio3. Iggy would love if you’d like his page and subscribe to “notifications” of new posts.

As I left San Miguel de Allende the end of April on this journey to Europe, in search of “home” and to inhabit my dreams, I’ve been trying to organize and refocus my website and this blog. I still have a long way to go, to put all my professional work on to my personal site and use this blog for my travels, both inner and outer. Between that and online work, for which I am very grateful to my client of 2+ years, Mr. Paul Merriman, I have had good excuses for not blogging.

No more excuses. I recommit. And, if I want to know what I’m committed to, all I have to do is look around at my mirror of my thoughts, feelings, actions (inactions) and interactions. The responsibility is all mine. This feels good.

How are you feeling about your commitments?

If you are a subscriber, thank you! I hope you will share this site on your social media and among friends, and will write a comment, even if briefly, so I know you’ve been here, are with me, which means so much!

I hope you enjoy my first post back, which will post immediately after this: “68 Thoughts A Baby-Boomer Woman Traveler Has Traveling Alone.”

Thoughts of Spring and Transformation

Jacaranda perennially marks spring in San Miguel de Allende
Purple jacaranda perennially marks the advent of spring in San Miguel de Allende

I have wondered how to start up again to craft blog posts when my days are full of work commitments and my own projects and preparing for travels and traveling and engaging with the people and tasks before me and trying to stay in direct touch with the many incredible friends who grace my life.

And then here, a new friend, Sue Aran – whom I’ve met only via email, via an introduction from a mutual friend and hope to encounter this summer in the life she is constructing in France – writes this stunningly beautiful post, and I get to “reblog” it to you. I hope you will visit her site and subscribe, as I aspire to the depth of insight and beauty she shares so graciously.

May you appreciate and enjoy the growth, transformation and waking up to this Time of Your Life!

More soon, with love,
Aysha

Knocking on Heaven’s Door

April 4, 2014 by sue

Read the original at: http://lestroisamies.wordpress.com/2014/04/04/knocking-on-heavens-door/#comment-441

“You can cut all of the flowers, but you cannot stop spring from coming.” ~ Pablo Neruda

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Last week the Vent d’Autun winds swept through southern Gascony stirring up portentous changes.  Like the infamous Mistral winds in Provence, they can make you crazy.  I found myself poised on a roller coaster dreading the inevitable drop, an existential free fall though doors of chaos, at once on top of the world and overwhelmed by the moment.  For days I felt like I was hovering in the eye of a storm…until I let go.  While looking for the meaning of life, I rediscovered the joy of being alive.  Thich Nhat Hanh says, “Letting go gives us freedom and freedom is the only condition for happiness.”

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The beginning of spring has unleashed a whirlwind of transformation, a turning point in the complex landscape of life.  Even the heavens are conspiring against us this month with a rare combination of 2 eclipses – a lunar eclipse on April 15th (which will only be seen in North America) and a solar eclipse on April 29th (which will only be seen in Australia) – and, a powerful alignment of stars celled a Cardinal Grand Cross.  We will be given many choices – to stay stuck or grow, resist or surrender, stay asleep or wake up.

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The Buddha says that everything dear to us causes pain.  Everything dear to us changes.  Every experience is a door that can open your heart, as every door is an entry to somewhere else.  The older I get the more I’m getting used to losses, the more I’m reminded that our lives are precious.  It’s not that there’s so little time, it’s that we waste so much of it.

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We all have the ability to transform the trials of our lives into revelations, our pain into growth.  In doing so, our lives become our practice.  In the Iliad, Homer said that the gods envy us because we’re human, because any moment may be our last, because we will never be here again.

After knocking on heaven’s door

the sea of life set me adrift

and I turned like a boat on a river

without oars.

The winds of change

blew me off course

until I surrendered

brimming with wonder

on to the other shore.